What do I do now?????????

[Pethead1]

We just found out a few days ago that my son and his girl frend have been "making out". Her parents knew of this and did not tell us. She is 16 my son is 14. We all met with the youth pastor and they said to set boundres. Her Mom got very mad when Pastor Cris told her she should have told us this. We str rules for Benjamin and purty much said no touching, no phone calls. Things like that. Her parents said no riding on the back of a motorcycle.(He has a bike).

The youth group is all in Texas for a fine arts compation but there are 5 adults and they all know there is not suposed to be ANY concet between them.

This evening something told me to go check his room. Well, I dont know how to say this but I have to try. She has been treated for being a "cutter". I found almost 100 letters she has wretting Ben saying she was mad at him and wanted to hurt herself. I found a pare of her underwear.

The letters borter on XXX. I was emberast to read them and I have been marred 21 years.
In the letters you can see how things progressed, she thought he didnt love her coz he did not kiss her. So he kissed her. I think you can guess the rest. I am sorry I can type it. I am a mother and my hert is broken.

My first though was to go to Texas to get him but that is not a good. Bouth youth pastors and Pastor know about the other. We have prayed for God to speak to Ben this week and for him to repent. The kid is 14 and has always felt he didn't fit in. Also I found her payas go cell phone he has been caller her on AFTER he was told no phone calls.

There is also reason to belive her parents have been alowing him to drink wine.
In our state it is agenst the law for anybody 16 or older to have any sexual acts on anybody 15 and under.We have all the proff any cort would need in her own handwriteing and dated. Not to mention the wine. As a mother I want to call the police NOW. As a christian I do not know.

I realy need ya'll to pray for this I have cryed for 3 hours tonight. We have prayed but now are numb. Can ya'll help me stand in this battle? This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through.

What if ,realy,what if we find out in a few weeks our 14 year old is to be a father?
Sence when do kids trade underwere?

I just don't know if I can do this.

[Shell]

Aw, it's hard when kids go against what they've been taught. Are you sure this actually happened, or is was she just writing? Kids do dumb things. It might help you to talk to your pastor to help you sort things out.

I'll pray for you, and I'll e-mail you later. You can e-mail me to.

[Michael]

Hey... I just wanted you to know that I read your post and did pray for you. I didn't offer any advice because my son is only four... not really a lot of experience with the kinds of issues you're mentioning, although a little friend of his did give him a kiss last week (!) God will work this out for you. I guess the best advice I can give in my position is to be patient and calm, because the very worst thing we can do in situations like this is react based on our emotions. All that ever does is drive people away, and the last thing you want to do is alienate your boy because of it. Keep yourself cool, even though you feel pretty strong negative emotions about it, and let God work it out as you follow His instruction and wisdom.

[epdc]

i don`t know much about that , my "degree" is in drugs , well, all I can think of is that the worst thing to do is to mmmm yell at him ya know, like "WHY YOU DID THAT'?? STUPID....." i think the best is to talk to him and ask him why he did it but with the goal of trying to understand him (yeah, being tough, but not 100% or the kid won`t speak nothing)ya know and ask God for wisdom for explaining him why it is wrong because being 100% tough is gonna make him to separate more from you guys......i`m so sorry to hear this debbie, i`ll be praying...