I need some help....Or something

[Pethead1]

I do not know a time in my life when I have been in more pain than now.
Last Oct. my Granny died. Me and my brother went togher. We faiced the witch and his coven and we got through it togher. In Feb the witch shot himself and we got through that togher. Even dealing with the GBI. All my life David has been there. All the drunk fist fights. The scerming. He was always there to get me through.

June 17 David was killed. Just like that some man from the school bord kills my brother and gets a slap on the wrist. I cry. I cry. I pray and pray. Then cry some more.

My husband says I need to get over it. Well that just pisses me off.(sorry).
Dosent he know if I could get over it I would. I miss my brother. The race in Atl is next weekend. I told Mom I was not going to go but she said that I realy had to get it over with. How am I to go do the thing we loved most without him? With my husband always telling me to get over it. Like I am enjoying all this pain. It is the worst pain I have ever gone through. I have never felt so alone.

Am I OK? It hurts.

Any advice?
Thanks Debbie

[Shell]

Your husband shouldn't be telling you to "get over it" that's for sure. You've had a difficult time this last year and you need his support, it's not easy to lose a family member. He may not know what to say to help you, but he shouldn't be telling you to get over it. That would piss me off too, I don't blame you for being angry. You might tell him he doesn't have to say a lot, but you need him to listen to you and let you be upset about all you've been through. Is there a pastor at church you could talk to? That might help too. And you know you can e-mail me any time.

[Ms.Musica]

Hey Girl,
I know your pain. My brother was murdered 13 years ago. And I have to tell you, you never get over it. But praise God, you will learn to deal and live with it.
I am really sorry that your husband is not being very supportive, but someitmes they just don't know how to handle your sorrow. Those who have not lost someone in this tragic way have no idea what it does to our heart. I have lost a grandfather to old age, and a father-in-law to cancer, and I can say that it is not the same as losing someone to murder. And the fact that the person who did it got away with it just makes it worse. The men who muredered my brother also got away with it. No you are not wrong for still feeling like it just happened yesterday. That is totally normal!!!!
I want you to know that you will start to recover. But you really have to let God have your pain. I know you have probably heard that before, but it is true. How do you do it you ask, first, you need to forgive the man who killed your brother. That was VERY hard for me. If you have already done that, then good for you. Now it's time to let the Lord heal your pain. God understands what you are going through. Remember, his son was killed and the men who did it got away with it. And remember
Jesus forgave them before he died.
When you cry, call out to God. Talk to him as if he was sitting right there with you. Your forgiveness gives God the chance to comfort you. AND HE WILL. Just continue to live your life as best you can, cry when it comes, and talk to the Lord everytime it hits you.
That is just some advice from a girl who loves and misses her brother too.
And if you would like to keep in touch just let me know and I will give you my e-mail address.
Sincerely,
Musica ( another grieving sister)

[clyde]

Wow....I am so sorry for your pain...I really dont think the loss of a loved one is something we ever really get over. There seems to always be a loss there....these prescious people were put on this earth for their unique purpose that no one else can fill.
There is nothing I can say that will make this any easiar. I just pray that you find peace and comfort from the Sweet Love of Jesus. While we can never understand why things happen, God will and always does use for good, what satan meant for evil!
Be encouraged, you have through Jesus all the strength and power you need to get through this as a Victor! You are His mighty Warrior!! You may never "get over" this, but you will be stronger in the end! Your testimoney will help another one day.