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epdc · Post by **epdc** » Fri Oct 22, 2004 8:56 pm

Men and women like perfumes it has effect on all of us.

Proverbs 27:9

Good perfume is costly because its base is that of tons of crushed flowers. Wise
and encouraging counsel which maketh the heart to rejoice is the same way. It is
very costly. Only the person who has been through the crushing himself who has
experienced the same devastating and painful experiences can truely counsel you
in your hour of pain and grief. There fore let the Lord do a work of breaking
and crushing in your life so that you can be as fragrant perfume to the souls of
others

The bride says of her Beloved in the Song of Solomon 1:3 Thy name is as ointment
poured forth therefore do the virgins love thee. Truly, His name, His beautiful
name is as ointment. It brings healing and comfort. This is because of the
crushing Jesus endured.

Because of the crushing and breaking He experienced, He can give us wise and
healthy counsel. Through His own breaking. Let God break and crush you so that
you too can give blessing, healing and joy to others. My best sermans are from
the times of crushing.

Shell · Post by **Shell** » Fri Oct 22, 2004 9:40 pm

I just had to post this before I get offline for the night.

Don't assume that because your sister and parents have problems the same thing will happen to you Elo. Try and learn from them what you DON'T want to do rather than be afraid you'll have the same thing happen to you.

Sheesh, us gals get so caught up in the "romantic" and "happily ever after" stuff. Romance has it's place, but if you try and build a marriage on it you're headed for trouble. Romance won't help you through those times you look at each other after you're married and wonder what in the world you've gotten yourself into; it won't help you cope when you have your first baby and neither one of you are getting enough sleep; it won't help you cope if someone loses their job and you wonder how you're going to pay your bills or if someone gets sick and you have to deal with doctors and medication. It's working through that nitty-gritty reality stuff that bonds you and keeps you together, not just romance. Not enough people understand what a lot of hard work marriage is, and it's probably a big reason why so many marriages don't last. I know I wasn't ready for the realities of married life at 20 or 21. I know that won't be the case for everyone, but I think it's the exception rather than the rule. Get finished with school first and worry about all that other stuff later, you'll be glad you did. You're going to meet the right person one day. Just remember, though, Prince Charming has a way of falling off his horse. LOL.

epdc · Post by **epdc** » Fri Oct 22, 2004 9:51 pm

I`m just done with one.

I know all that. I totally completely understand that marriages have those problems you mentioned. I don`t mind to deal with that.

With what I SO DON`T WANNA DEAL WITH is with a husband who won`t love me and won`t treat me with respect. I don`t want a husband who leaves to work somewhere else (another city) without taking me with him. I don`t want a husband who if is out of town won`t make a phonecall for wanting to talk to me.

I don`t want a husband who hits me and i don`t want a husband who buys a VCR and a new tv but doesn`t buy me shoes if I don`t have any. I don`t want a husband who goes out with his friends on my birthday. I don`t care about gifts at all.

that`s what I don`t want. I don`t care to deal with the biggest problems as long my husband and I be together ya know. and ya know what? I haven`t seen ANY OF THAT in my family, either in my brother and his wife, my parents and my sis and her husband.

Shell · Post by **Shell** » Fri Oct 22, 2004 10:54 pm

Yeah, I see what you're saying; it does make things very hard when a guy doesn't want to be with his wife; it does cause serious problems when that's the case. My dad was the same way. He didn't really want to be with his family, and has always been difficult to get along with, and he's paying the price now because none of us can handle being around him for long periods of time. I can understand how it's frustrating for you to see that in your family. Keep trusting that God has someone who will love and want to be with you, and let God take that burden you feel because of your family. Keep in mind too even families who do care about each other and want to be together are going to let each other down sometimes. No family is going to be perfect, it's impossible. But I can see how being apart because hubby works in another city isn't good.

epdc · Post by **epdc** » Sat Oct 23, 2004 6:36 pm

really? I didn`t know that of your family

I just want someone who wants to be with me ya know, i don`t care about money and problems with the kids (if I ever have), I know we would get through it with God...

Shell · Post by **Shell** » Sat Oct 23, 2004 7:25 pm

Hehe. I never mentioned that to you in our IM sessions?

Yep, he's hard to get along with, always has been, and he's not likely to change, but that's his problem. I decided a long time ago I wasn't gonna let him upset me. I know compared to some horror stories I've heard I had it pretty good, but I feel like I missed out as far as having a strong father figure. It's only by the grace of God and a good mom I'm a Christian or even have a reasonable amount of common sense today. If things had been left for my dad to take care of, my brothers and I would be messes, and we're not although we're far from perfect. He had a hard time growing up too though, he wasn't taught what having a family or thinking about someone besides yourself means.

epdc · Post by **epdc** » Sun Oct 24, 2004 8:51 pm

a thing that has helped me to understand at least these guys (my dad, my bro and my brother in law) is to make an analysis of their lives, is amazing what you can discover shell, see a guy like a book (LOL) where you suppose to make an analysis hehehe.

Shell · Post by **Shell** » Sun Oct 24, 2004 9:56 pm

Hehe. It does help some to understand their background. It doesn't excuse their behavior, and it doesn't make the problems go away, but it gives you some tools of understanding to work with. It does help to keep in mind many times people who hurt have been hurt themselves in some way. It's amazing the effect a guy can have on his family by not being there though. Not a good idea to underestimate how important being a husband and dad is.

SamScales · Post by **SamScales** » Mon Oct 25, 2004 9:38 pm

I know it's soo tuff when all you see is the men that are important in your life do things that are hurtful to the other people that are important in your life and of course you are worried about that it's gonna happen to you too. But again, that's a lie of the enemy, that's what he wants you to believe. There's nothing on this earth that the love and power of God cannot break! The power of the love of God can and will break all evil because the greatest of all is love. If Jesus overcame the enemy, then His love is sufficient to overcome the fear that you will end up with a guy that does all the things that you don't want him to do.

Important thing........keep praying, keep asking God for who you want in your life and be specific. Then thank Him for the provision and - WAIT!
The enemy wants you to rush into a relationship - and often when we rush we end up with the wrong person....

God has the perfect mate for you - try not to look at the lives of everyone else in your family. Look for the life that God has for you!!

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