The verses I quotes were a just a few of many that basically make the same case. If I posted them all it would be quite a long list. I am a very careful scripture reader. Context is very important to me and as a pastor it's basically part of my job to get it right. Hermeneutics is not practiced correctly when instead taking scripture for what it says, in it's context, we decide to practice eisegesis and distort it into something else. You can poo poo taking these verses literally all you want, but when hyperbole is offered in the scriptures it's generally very clear that that's the case. You are suggesting that the things God is saying of himself are not to be taken at their word. I see that as very dangerous.There are two things that I take issue with here:
First of all, you assume that the verses you quoted support your view and support it exclusively. This is, of course, not the case. Yes, God does guide our steps, but he doesn't do it directly. Rather, it is through his revealed will -- that is scripture -- and the inner promptings of the Holy Spirit and not as though mankind were puppets on a string with limited freewill. The view you espouse would seem to abdicate man, at least partly, of his personal responsibility which undermines the central message of the Bible.
Secondly, you talk about "sides". We're not on opposite sides here. I think, ultimately, we're all arguing the same thing, just from different perspectives. That you accuse me of promoting deism tells me nothing more than you have almost entirely failed to understand my position.
Regarding Pharoah, I suppose it's possible that God overrode his freewill and forced him to harden his heart, but I don't believe he actually did and that you're reading scripture too literally (just as you read "A man's steps are directed by the LORD" too literally). "God hardened Pharoah's heart" reads to me like a figure of speech, similar to "I made my brother mad".
Having said that, you are once again misrepresenting my view with your "puppets on a string" comment. This is not and never has been what I have been saying and nothing about what I'm saying alleviates man of responsibility. God doesn't make men be good or evil. All of us sin, so all of us are evil. God calls us to repentance and some do and some don't. God allows us to make that decision for ourselves, but the scriptures are clear that there does come a time where God will turn man over to his sin, just as he did with Pharaoh. Once again, Pharaoh hardened his own heart first, this is what the scripture says, after that, God further hardened him and used him and his evil ways to bring glory to himself. So it's not a matter of God making certain people good and certain people evil, rather it's about taking those who choose to follow him and using them for his purposes and also taking those who resist him and using them for his purposes. As with Jonah, he hems people in with circumstances in order to bring about a result, but no one person is so all important that they will make or break God's will. If one should fall by the way side, there would be another to take his place and either way, God's will gets accomplished. So yes, man has that freedom of choice within certain limitations, but ultimately God's purposes are accomplished in all things. Now, some will look at something like the Holocaust and say God's purposes could not have been accomplished in that, but you don't know that, you assume it because you place your own thoughts and ways above God's and you refuse to submit to his sovereignty. Petra themselves sang about this very thing. Read the lyrics to Whole World. It's everything I and others have been talking about. As the song notes, Jesus said not even a sparrow can fall to the ground apart from the will of the Father. So see, I'm still waiting for the scriptural evidence that man can frustrate the will of God. That God doesn't care what happens with a group like Petra and that if they are a big deal or a small deal is all just in the hands of men and that God is indifferent to it. Waiting, waiting and still waiting...
I would have to contend that yes, we are on different sides. There are those who believe in the sovereignty of God and there are those who deny it. That's not a matter of perspective. I'm not saying it make one a Christian and one not a Christian, I'm just saying, it's a very important difference. Kind of like Protestant and Catholic kind of difference. As for Deism well, the definition of Deism is a belief in a God who created but who does not interfere in the affairs of men. At the very least, to a significant degree, this is what you guys are saying. Sure, you're not full blown Deists, but you do deny what the scriptures teach about how God is involved with and impacts the affairs of men.